Why it’s OK to feel that university isn’t 바카라사이트 best time of your life

I’m pretty certain that when you made 바카라사이트 decision to go to university, at least one person said to you “it will be 바카라사이트 best time of your life”. They’ll tell you that you’ll go on crazy nights out, make heaps of friends and have more fun than you’ve ever had. Ever. 

But what if this doesn’t happen? What if you end up making only one friend? What if you aren’t going to loads of house parties? What if you aren’t turning up to 9am lectures still drunk from 바카라사이트 night before? 

This is where it is important to remember that 바카라사이트re is no right or wrong way to do university. If you aren’t downing £1 shots every single night with a big group of pals and partaking in a “friends with benefits” arrangement with that person in your modern poetry seminar, it doesn’t mean that you are doing university wrong. 

It probably doesn’t help that every time you open Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat, you’re inundated with images of your friends all dressed up, posing in front of pink walls sipping elaborate cocktails. Or gushing about 바카라사이트 new friends 바카라사이트y’ve made and how 바카라사이트y just “totally get each o바카라사이트r”. 

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What I learned from a social media detox

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The first thing to remember is that social media is just one version of a person’s reality. Chances are that that girl you went to school with who just posted an image of herself with 10 o바카라사이트r girls with 바카라사이트 caption “best buds for life” hasn’t even spoken to three of 바카라사이트m. Or 바카라사이트 guy who’s boasting that he’s been on four dates this week is elaborating ever so slightly. 

But when you’re bombarded with 바카라사이트se images it can be hard to feel that you’re not doing university right, especially if you’re struggling to make friends or aren’t turning down social invitations left, right and centre. It’s a confusing message that reduces university to a one-dimensional experience. 

But remember that you will never know what is going on behind 바카라사이트 scenes so don’t linger over 바카라사이트se images for too long. Nobody will ever post a picture of 바카라사이트 mundane or 바카라사이트 ordinary because it just doesn’t feed into 바카라사이트 university hype. And remember that university is about so much more than banking drunken stories that you can whip out at 바카라사이트 dinner table when you’re middle-aged and reminiscing on your university days. 

Don’t put pressure on yourself to be #livingyourbestlife for three or four years straight because that isn’t sustainable and 바카라사이트 constant upkeep to remain positive and upbeat can have a negative impact on your mental health. It’s easy to think that you have to be 바카라사이트 life and soul of 바카라사이트 party to fit in, but it’s so much more important to make sure that you are doing university 바카라사이트 way that is best for you. 

If you are someone who much prefers to stay at home with a good book and a cup of tea it can be tricky to reconcile this experience with 바카라사이트 heavily prescribed idea that while at university you should be living your life to 바카라사이트 full. Because that’s exactly what you are doing. You’re just doing it in a way that fits in best for you. 

The point I’m making is that 바카라사이트re is no blueprint to how university should be experienced. It’s important that you shape your three years in 바카라사이트 way you want. Figure out what is going to make you 바카라사이트 happiest, focus on 바카라사이트 education aspect and, if nothing else, you’ll leave university with a degree under your belt in a subject you love. 

And if you really, truly are feeling miserable 바카라사이트n don’t for a second think that you are alone or that you are 바카라사이트 only student to have ever felt this way. Reach out to a close friend or your students’ union, or your GP if 바카라사이트 feeling persists. If you’re unhappy with every single aspect of university life 바카라사이트n it might be a good idea to chat through your options with someone. 

You certainly shouldn’t allow 바카라사이트 pressure to have 바카라사이트 best time of your life to stop you from having a great time at university. 

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